Tuesday, August 14, 2012

Dinner Questions - Relationship Edition

I had dinner with a long time friend tonight.  It never fails the conversation always turns to relationships.  It was interesting as always.  Neither of us thought we would be 30 and single, but we are, fine with it, but relationship discussions always come up.  Here were some questions that were posed for tonight.

Is location a make or break kind of thing?  For me, no.  At one time it would have been, but my opinion on that has changed.  Don't get me wrong, I'm not itching to move, but for the right guy, I would go somewhere else.  I think for both he and I this is probably a bigger deal than for most just because we live in a small town, our parents both have farms, we have deep roots in this small town.

Would you date someone with kids?  Yes, I think I would.  It would definitely require a lot of communication before going into the marriage on LOTS of different things, but I wouldn't write someone off because he was a dad.

What's your age range?  I think it completely depends on the person, at least that's what I said.  And, really, I think for men, that's more true.  I think if he wants to date someone who's 23, that's completely fine.  She may be someone who's ready to settle down, and she may not, but it doesn't hurt going on a date.  All that being said, I can't really imagine dating someone that much younger than me. 

What is on your "list" that you wouldn't compromise on?  #1 a Christian, that's make or break from the get go

Are there any denominations that you wouldn't date?  Honestly, yes.  I want to go to church together as a couple, and there are some denominations that I just don't think I would feel comfortable with.  I don't think there is any perfect denomination or non-denomination, but I do think there are difference between lots of them.

So, probably some of this makes me sound very open minded.  Probably some makes me sound pretty close minded.  To tell you the truth, all of the questions above I never even make it to.  I find a problem with the guy's eyebrows, or the way he puts his napkin in his lap, or who his favorite QB is and I write him off (this is a tiny exaggeration, but not really, for the most part, I just refuse to date based on what someone tells me about the potential person they want to set me up with)

What do you think?  Thoughts on any of these questions.  My friend posed them all, it was interesting to talk thru them, to get his take, and think about what my own take was. 


Anonymous said...

I think you should go on some of the dates people try to set you up on!

Anna Catherine said...

Interesting that's anonymous :-) No one can put up with me.

birdie said...

I went on a blind date and married him. He is your sweet brother- in- law's daddy!!

Andrea Delap said...

I get where you're coming from completely. I was 33 when I got married. Went through some of these same questions, and then some. Here's my advice: Stand your ground on those non-negotiables and then open up that mind. If someone had told me that I would marry a man 15 years older than me, I would have told them they were crazy. I'm not saying you have to run out and marry the first old guy you come across, just be open to who God puts into your path. It may come in the most obvious or unlikely of ways. We need to have dinner and discuss some of this :)